They say the world doesn't revolve around me but I don't believe them.

I have been to 40 countries. I travel alone most of the time, sometimes with friends and regularly with family. We grew up traveling. Not traveling would be out of the ordinary, it's the most important ritual in my life. Leaving, letting go, integrating the lessons, listening to myself, making new plans with myself. Manifesting this life has been a journey of acceptance of what is and traveling has been a big part of that. I had no choice but to keep an open mind, my social survival depended on it. To adapt reseliently is a skill, it changes you. You learn to become different versions of yourself in different situations. You see how moldable and learned being is.

When you see how tribal dynamics actually defy adaptability and hold the whole tribe back, you realize we have entered the territory of cults. In that case, I am starting my own cult where I am at the centre of the world, so yes to me, everything revolves around me.

In the past we had to integrate in the collective institutions of power, but in the near future institutions will crumble and the quest is going to integrate our own personal power in everything we do. It is a great unlearning, it is a great battle for our individuality, our attention, our purpose. A great reclaiming as well, accepting to receive with open arms and a grateful heart that which is meant for us.

The main currency is me.

And the main question is how can I live a vital life.

In the first part of my life, I traveled by necessity. I would have preferred not to leave my friends. In elementary school  especially, kids don't do well with change at first, the benefits come much later and do not seem obvious or desirable. It took getting to midlife, to realize that these were lessons that become blessings as I embraced difficult situations with ease and determination. It doesn't mean that I didn't feel sad or disappointed, I just let myself feel without judgement and made sure to let go when I was ready. Becoming my own best friend has been the most magical process, like seeing a garden in full bloom after years of cultivating it.

The tribe is dead, long live the individual. Selfish and passionate or ruthlessly passionate would be the name of my scent. I was created to experience life through my own prism. I have never let myself be guilted for my point of view or my desires. I believe in equality and equality means that neither my or your desires are more important or mutually exclusive as long as we don't hurt each others' boundaries or physical space. The greatest privilege is to share our privilege, nothing should be hoarded, good fortune is meant to be shared, it's meant to flow unimpeded. No gatekeeping allowed. Gatekeeping is my least favorite tribal characteristic. I can't wait for all the gates to crumble.

Though humans speak many different languages, the one universal  language you can use anywhere is your intuition. Honing into it and listening to it, reading, experiencing and gathering lived and validated wisdom will help you figure our what and who is for you. Your network will determine so much of what you do in your life. You will compare yourself to them at first. Everywhere I have been people compare each other relentlessly, even in buddhist societies there is jealousy and poverty. So imagine instead of looking outside of myself for validation, if I flipped the script on its head and proclaimed that I am the centre of the universe?

Below is the list of countries I have been to in no particular order. I have highlighted the ones I would go to again.

JAPAN

INDONESIA

CAMBODIA

THAILAND

VIETNAM

NEPAL

GHANA

TANZANIA

MAROCCO

SPAIN

PORTUGAL

ITALY

AUSTRIA

GREECE

FRANCE

NETHERLANDS

UK

SCOTLAND

BELGIUM

US

BULGARIA

TURKEY

SYRIA

ALGERIA

CYPRUS

CANADA

MEXICO

COLOMBIA

COSTA RICA

BOLIVIA

ECUADOR

ARGENTINA

BRAZIL

CHILE

CUBA

DOMINICAN REPUBLIC

SAINT MARTIN

SAN VINCENT

ROMANIA

CROATIA

I am not sure if these 40 countries have anything else in common, but they have me visiting them so far. Soon more will join the list, it will grow, expand and breathe, just like me. My world will push its boundaries out, it will absorb a little more sparkle and more substance. I will rise and set upon this world of mine, my satellites twinking at dusk. I am at the centre of the vortex.

Are you full?

Full of cells,

Full of life

Full of breath

Full

to exhale

Full